Self Confidence By 11 Simple Rules-
Self confidence gives us the freedom to commit mistakes and cope with failure without making us feel worthless. If only we have
confidence in ourselves, can we gain confidence of others. After all, most
people are reluctant to back a project thats being pitched by someone who is
nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic. On the other hand, you might be
persuaded by someone who spoke clearly, who held his or her head high, who
answered questions assuredly, and who readily admitted when he/she did not know
So where do you rate yourself on the scale of 1-10 for your confidence level? Do you think you fall in the low confidence bracket? Here is
some good news for you. And the good news is that self-confidence can be learned
and built on.
Lets start the process of building self-confidence. Remember there is no quick fix solution for it. Nonetheless, practice makes a man perfect. So
all you have to do is try and implement the following given tips in your day to
Recognize your insecurities: We all have insecurities in life. It can be anything
from acne, to regrets, to friends at school. Giving a name to the things which
make you feel unworthy, ashamed or inferior helps to combat them. You can try to
pen down your thoughts and you will find that it makes you feel much lighter and
happier. Remember that no one is perfect. The man or woman sitting next to you
might have the same amount of insecurities as you have. If writing doesnt come
easily to you, you might want to talk it out with your friends or loved ones.
Sharing your thoughts will help relieve the burden you have been carrying all
Identify your successes: No matter how insecure you might feel, God has
blessed each one of us with some talent. Discover the things you are good at and
then focus on improving them. Give yourself permission to take pride in your
talents. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind
in which youve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be
Be thankful for what you have: A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of
confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether its emotional
validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do
have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding
that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
Dress sharp: Although clothes don't make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. When you dont look good, you dont feel good. It
changes the way you carry yourself and interact with people. This doesn'tt mean
you need to spend a lot on clothes. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes,
buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending
because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than
Walk faster: Your gait tells a lot about your personality. Is it slow? Tired? Painful? Or is
it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have
places to go, people to see, and important work to do. You can increase yourself
confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you
look and feel more important.
Compliment other people: When we think negatively about ourselves, we often
project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. Refuse to
engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you.
In the process, youll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking
for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
Take the front seat: Back benchers might seem to have a lot of fun in schools
and colleges but that does nothing to boost their self confidence. Don't be
afraid to get noticed. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over
your irrational fear of getting noticed and build your self confidence.
Speak up: Its a general observation that many people are afraid to speak or ask questions in a group
discussion or a public gathering. They are afraid that they might be judged for
saying something stupid. Generally, people are much more accepting than we
imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an
effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you'll become a
better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a
leader by your peers.
Work out: A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. If you are fit, you are
surrounded by positivity and energy. If you are out of shape you feel
unattractive. This leads to demoralization. Just a little discipline in your
life can help shape up your self confidence in a big way.
Smile: Last but not the least; try to smile as much as possible. People are always
appreciative of a smiling face. You will be welcomed by anyone who comes in your
contact. A smiling face is always received with warmth and affection. Acceptance
and recognition from others helps in building self